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Boy Wanted


This "want ad" appeared in the early part of [the 20th] century.

WANTED - A boy that stands straight, sits straight, acts straight, and talks straight;

A boy whose fingernails are not in mourning, whose ears are clean, whose shoes are polished, whose clothes are brushed, whose hair is combed, and whose teeth are well cared for;

A boy who listens carefully when he is spoken to, who asks questions when he does not understand, and does not ask questions about things that are none of his business;

A boy that moves quickly and makes as little noise about it as possible;

A boy who whistles in the street, but does not whistle where he ought keep still;

A boy who looks cheerful, has a ready smile for everybody, and never sulks;

A boy who is polite to every man and respectful to every woman and girl;

A boy who does not smoke cigarettes and has no desire to learn how;

A boy who is more eager to know how to speak good English than to talk slang;

A boy that never bullies other boys nor allows other boys to bully him;

A boy who, when he does not know a thing says, "I don’t know," and when has made a mistake says "I’m sorry," and when he is asked to do a thing says "I’ll try";

A boy who looks you right in the eye and tells the truth every time;

A boy who is eager to read good books;

A boy who would rather put in his spare time at the YMCA gymnasium than to gamble for pennies in a back room;

A boy who does not want to be "smart" nor in any wise attract attention;

A boy who would rather lose his job or be expelled from school than to tell a lie or be a cad;

A boy whom other boys like;

A boy who is at ease in the company of girls;

A boy who is not sorry for himself, and not forever thinking and talking about himself;

A boy who is friendly with his mother, and more intimate with her than anyone else;

A boy who makes you feel good when he is around;

A boy who is not a goody-goody, a prig, or a little pharisee, but just healthy, happy, and full of life;

This boy is wanted everywhere. The family wants him, the school wants him, the office wants him, the boys want him, the girls want him, all creation wants him.

Source unknown
Quoted in The Children's Book of Virtues
by William J. Bennet

There is nothing for girls that is as tough on them; and, apparently, at an even earlier time already it was thought to be quite all right and proper.  After all, aren't men born to be the servants of women?

Feminism four hundred years ago — Oppression of Women?

"It is an amazing thing to see in our city the wife of a shoemaker, or a butcher, or a porter dressed in silk with chains of gold at the throat, with pearls and rings of good value....and then in contrast to see her husband cutting the meat, all smeared with cow's blood, poorly dressed.... but whosoever considers this carefully will find it reasonable, because it is necessary that the lady, even if low born and humble, be draped with such clothes for her natural excellence and dignity, and the man [be] less adorned as if a slave, or a little ass, born to her service."

— Lucrezia Marinella, Venice, Italy, 1600
The Nobility and Excellence of Women Together
With the Defects and Deficiencies of Men

Quoted on page 22 of
If Men Have All the Power How Come Women Make the Rules
(Translation into French)

Lucrezia Marinella also argued that:

Nobody honors another person unless they know that the person has some gift or quality that is superior to his own, as Aristotle writes in book IV of the Ethics: "Everything that excels in some way is more honorable."

Honor is nothing more that the reward or benefit of the virtue that shines forth from somebody as he states in the Ethics, book VIII, chapter 16: honor "is the prize appointed for the noblest deeds."

It is necessary therefore to conclude that women are nobler than men because they are honored by men....

But I wish to... show that men are obliged and forced to love women, and that women are not obliged to love them back, except merely from courtesy....

More of Lucrezia Marinella's writings

Well!  It is obvious that even in those days the feminists knew little of logic.  How else, other than by lacking any sense of logic, could Lucrezia Marinella have distorted Aristotle's words so badly.  Aristotle said that honour is the prize appointed for the noblest deeds.  According to Aristotle's reasoning, those that excel through noble deeds deserve and are being accorded honour.  Those that merely pride themselves in being beautiful may well be admired as much as a beautiful painting or sculpture, but it is those that created that much admired beauty through their skills and sweat of their brow that truly deserve honour for having devoted themselves to, and succeeded in, creating a beautiful work of art.

True beauty shines from the beauty of the heart.  That requires work, often very hard work.  Anyone that excels at doing that kind of work well deserves much honour, but that leaves Lucrezia Marinella and other people like her out.  They are incapable of understanding that "honour is the prize appointed for the noblest deeds."

A boy who works hard to achieve all of what is demanded of him in the "Boy Wanted" ad deserves a lot of honour.  Lucrezia Marinella deserved very little or none of it, as she was merely conceited and considered men to be not her equals but her servants.  However, the feminists see nothing wrong with such a woman being so conceited.  They brush her conceitedness off with: "Marinella is not above using a bit of "specious reasoning" herself---in a good cause, of course."  When it is for the advancement of women's rights and status — deserved or not — specious reasoning, even if it demeans men, is for a good cause.

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Posted 2002 02 25
2005 02 07 (re-formated page and added additional quotes from Lucrezia Marinella)