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Fathers in families, not families without fathers

For that, fathers must be quite clear on their goals as to what fathers are and how the public perceives them to live up to that image.

As a consequence of the ECMAS Scandal, Donna Laframboise, a journalist writing for the National Post in Canada who brought to light incompatible and perceivably harmful ideological goals by people in the Fathers Rights movement, became the target of criticism, derogation and worse by some Canadian Fathers Rights activists.

Donna Laframboise most likely will not write any articles anymore about Fathers Rights issues. That's how people who derogate her and anyone like her shoot the "fathers" rights movement in the foot. The issue is not whether freedom of speech has been violated by objecting to views which promote the sexualization of children (which no father in his right mind would do), but that the public will find it troubling that the Fathers Rights movement lends its solid support to childless men promoting those views.

That is very political, but it most certainly is not politically savvy. Let's call a spade a spade. The Canadian Fathers Rights movement has become tainted, perhaps even soiled, by the humanistic views of its libertarian leaders and spokesmen.

Stephen Baskerville wrote an article about the need for fathers to become politically active, Fathers' Rights Are Fathers' Duties.  The article contains much that all Fathers Rights activists can learn from. And who is to argue with Stephen Baskerville on that? It would be hard to find a better expert on the subject. He is a Fathers Rights advocate, a spokesman for Fathers Rights and a professor lecturing in political science. To boot, he's not a childless man, he's a divorced father who cares very much about his children and those of other fathers.

No matter how cathartic it can be to appear angry and to express it, being politically active means much more than merely raking politicians and judges over the coals. More than anything else, it means that one must be perceived as being a father, not as a gender activist.

The general public, whose support ultimately decides whether fathers will once more gain the respect of all of society, is in the vast majority conservative in relation to fundamental questions of our humanity. One of those questions is whether we should have fathers within or without families. The political reality is that nobody in his right mind will fight for the rights of fathers who go out of their way to defend the merits of the sexualization of children through the promotion of pornography; ostensibly in the name of protecting freedom of speech. The vast majority of people consider such views as being immoral, regardless of how enlightened the proponents of such views claim to be.

It is no crime to be conservative. Until the gender activists made it possible for the planned destruction of our families to become reality, it was a sign of respectability to be conservative. Many of the ostensible leaders of the fathers rights movement hold liberal and libertarian views, especially with respect to family issues. They are not representative of the conservative majority in the population. By supporting the views that they piggy-backed onto the fathers' right movement, the movement puts itself firmly on the outermost fringe of the scope of public opinion. That is not how fathers can regain the respect of society.

If we want to work to restore society's respect for families and fathers, then we must begin to act and talk like fathers should. We must not just insist on Fathers Rights, but we must also stress fathers' duties. We must not just insist on society's duties to fathers, we must stress even more society's right to have fathers in families, not families without fathers.

Being a father is a sacred duty. It means much more than the right to more, bigger and better orgasms, more than the right to become a sperm donor. It is a life-time mission and ends with death, but even then the memory of fathers must live on in and guide their children.

Fathers are an integral and critical part of views such as these:

A country stands or falls with its families.

— Rosalie Henke, my sister,
a wife and mother of four, grandmother of four

Any nation, the German too, that doesn't have women and men who are willing to become parents and to raise their children cooperatively in permanent family relationships will dissolve into nothing.

Karin Jäckel, Ph.D.,
wife, mother and author of many books on family issues, 
in The Wife at his Side: 'Mere' Housewives in the Looking-glass of Feminism


The "family" in all ages and in all corners of the globe can be defined as a man and a woman bonded together through a socially approved covenant of marriage to regulate sexuality, to bear, raise, and protect children, to provide mutual care and protection, to create a small home economy, and to maintain continuity between the generations, those going before and those coming after.

It is out of the reciprocal, naturally recreated relations of the family that the broader communities—such as tribes, villages, peoples, and nations—grow.

— Dale O'Leary, The Gender Agenda, p. 24,
original source: Allan Carlson, in
What's Wrong With the United Nations Definition of 'Family'?
The Family in America (August 1994), p. 3

How can any father forget about the crucial role he must play in that design for the fundamental building block of any well society and still demand respect and justice?

Real fathers put the welfare of others — their families, community and nation — before their own. However, they cannot exercise their role if they are not part of their families and if they don't receive the respect they deserve for the sacrifices they make.   For that we need:

Fathers in families, not families without fathers.

Mission of the fathers rights movement

More on fathers and fatherhood

See also Fathers, Fatherhood and Fatherhood Issues

If you have concerns about these and other issues related to the condition of seniors, visit, contact and perhaps even join:

SUN — Seniors United Now

The up- and coming, rapidly-growing advocacy organization for seniors (55 years and over) in Alberta

There are in the order of about half a million or more people of age 55 and over in Alberta. If all of them were to join SUN, they would become the most powerful advocacy organization in Alberta; and seniors would no longer be robbed of their comforts and otherwise ignored.
   At the price of one package of cigarettes seniors will be able to gain a voice that will be heard by a government that otherwise can and will take from seniors what they worked for all their life to enjoy in their old age.

If you are concerned about how seniors are affected by the planned, systematic destruction of our families and society, a search at google.com (for elderly OR seniors OR grandparent OR grandfather OR grandmother site:https://fathersforlife.org) will provide you with the links to about 80 web pages at Fathers for Life that will be of interest to you.

Posted 2001 05 04
2004 06 24 (added entry for SUN — Seniors United Now)