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Re: Further question about abuse by women

From ads.com!decwrl!uunet!microsoft!allenwe Fri Feb 22 17:19:16 PST 1991
Article 26277 of soc.men:
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>From: allenwe@microsoft.UUCP (Allen WELLS)
Newsgroups: soc.men
Subject: Re: Further question about abuse by women
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Date: 16 Feb 91 16:44:43 GMT
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Reply-To: allenwe@microsoft.UUCP (Allen WELLS)
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In article <1991Feb14.090232.1@ssdvx2.mdcbbs.com> schar@ssdvx2.mdcbbs.com writes:
>As a single guy, I'd like to know if there are any early warning signs that
>a woman is abusive before a serious relationship/marriage begins. Is it
>obvious that a woman is abusive before the ring goes on her finger, or does the
>abuse usually start after the marriage?

My ex-wife treated me well until the marriage, and very quickly and
very dramatically changed. The abuse started after the marriage.
She was limited by the amount of committment I had. Before the
marriage, I would have simply left if she had beat me and she knew
it. She couldn't conceive of me divorcing her (she was wrong -
which is why she lied about birth control to get pregnant, to up the

However - having said this - there were plenty of signs that I
should have keyed in on. The biggest was the way she treated
others. She was regularily abusive to service people (like
waiters). She also treated her friends terribly. Her family was a
total mess - and they all treated each other badly.
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Next article by Allen Wells: Re: Wives abusing hubands? (was Re: Divorce Post-Mortem)

Posted 2006 09 04